I’m polyamorous and my relationship is already open. My advice: that’s the wrong reason to do it. The right reason is that you and your partner are both happy and comfortable with the idea of being in more than one relationship, with your partner being in more than one relationship, or bringing more people into the relationship. Any other reason is not a good foundation for an open relationship and will only cause grief, jealousy, frustration, resentment.
Hell no. I’m not going to be his sloppy seconds. If he wants an open relationship then that’s telling me that he isn’t satisfied with me. So in that case….he’s no longer good enough for me and I lost my appetite for him. Open relationships are gross. God would not approve of an open relationship anymore than he would approve of the murdering of innocent babies, by way of abortion. Does your partner think so highly of himself that he thinks two women would consent to him screwing other women while supposedly in a relationship with you? That’s just ducked up & wrong.
Open relationship can work for some couples, but only if it’s an active choice they are both making with lots of communication about it. It should not be used as a means to “save” a relationship, because it’s not addressing the underlying issues of what’s plaguing the relationships; it’s trying to put a band-aid on it and one that can often cause more hurt.